Tips to make love...

I used to live a simple, happy life. I call it happy, but it was more of a peaceful life. Happiness has different meanings at different times. Till a woman gives birth, she does not know what is happiness of being in love with the child. Is it not true? It was same with me.

Talking of love, I had read quite a lot in books and seen many movies. But love, the emotion was unknown to me. Then I fell in love and my world changed suddenly. I cannot say that I used to see stars in bright sun light, but I can surely say that for me the days became as lovely as the nights. We used to share everything. I used to read my poetries to her on telephone and she listened. That simple sharing was heavenly. The same ice cream used to taste totally differently when we used to share from the same cup. What she bought for me was commonly available in the shops, but I used to wear those clothes as if they were directly delivered fro heaven. I can go on and on about what all we shared and loved. As I said before that I had read about love, but did not know about it. I came to know about love only after falling in love.

If you are not in love, please fall in love. There is nothing comparable to love in giving joy. If you are already in love, please make use of every moment to experience it. Love comes as a blessing of God. Love is a blessing and one need not know about heaven if one is in love. Why one falls in love with a particular person? Why one feels different in love? Why one likes the feeling of love more than anything else? Why one forgets one's identity in love? And why one dies when the beloved leaves for no reason, is a mystery. Please enjoy life when you are in love. Enjoy every moment and live it. Love is a great feeling. Experience and live with love as much as you can, before you lose it.

It is tiring to get into new relationships after every few years. Every relationship demands lot of work and understanding. It needs lot of adjustments. Relationships cannot be easily established, but they get broken easily. The results are disastrous for both the partners. How to have longer lasting relationships? That question needs to be addressed and answers found. Let us think about that.

To have a relationship that works, one has to work. Most of us take a relationship for granted once we reach a certain level of intimacy. We assume that we are regular partners. We forget to work on the rough edges and that dooms the relationship to your surprise.

There may be many differences between both of you. Your value systems may be different. Your political beliefs may be different. Your ideas about the future may be different. She/he might be looking forward to a childfree marriage whereas you might be planning for a home full of children. Your financial planning may be different. One may believe in saving while other overspends. Will the joint account work?

Sometimes, the woman may be earning more than the man and the man may have to work on the male ego to happily go along. It is true with women. She may like to boss around but her partner may be more dominating. She will have to work on both.

Every relationship is meeting of two individuals who have to love each other, accept each other and learns to live happily with each other. That requires work. Find out how you are different compared to your partner. Now find out if there is any way these differences may hurt the relationship. If yes, try to smoothen them.

Similarly keep alert about the values of your partner. Do not ignore them. Once you realize that there is a big gap between values, it is better to sit down and talk. If after that you find that the gap is wide, decide to break-up. It is important that relationship be broken rather than continued with huge differences. But if you know that your relationship can survive long, work on that.

Watch a cloud in the sky. It seems stationary. Slowly it moves and after sometime, without our realizing, that cloud is gone. Sometimes love disappears from a relationship like that cloud.

When the relationship begins, everything looks ok. The communication is great. Not only verbal but also non-verbal communication between the partners is excellent. Slowly the rot sets in and there come a time when they stop communicating except when needed. The communication becomes need based. Earlier it was love based. What is the difference between need based and love based communication?

Relationship and communication - In love based communication the partners talk to each other about everything on the earth. They speak about their love; their needs, their dreams, their aspirations and everything else that makes them feel connected. In need based communication, the partners talk to each other minimally. What is required to keep the partnership together is the communication limit and nothing beyond that. It may revolve around bill payments, and other such talks. But this kind of communication gives no joy. It is the communication of dead relationship.

Reviving communication in relationship - To revive the communication the obvious answer is to talk again. Go back to earlier days and recollect what all you were talking. Begin talking like that again. As the gap between the partners has widened, this kind of communication becomes difficult in the beginning, but slowly it will break all the barriers.

4 Ways to Say “I Love You”

Saying “I love you” always makes for a tender moment. But “I love you” doesn’t have to be “said” with words. While this phrase is a powerful conveyor of emotion, showing your love in other ways is just as significant, and possibly even more effective, at keeping a relationship alive and healthy. There are simple ways to show how much you love someone without uttering those three little words. Plus: Are you a good kisser?

1. Show Your Approval, Gratitude and Admiration
As human beings, we are programmed to seek reassurance from those we love and even sometimes from those we don’t.

So it makes sense that you’d do your best to make sure your partner knows just how much you approve of and admire him. Letting your guy know how you feel takes no time at all. And even if you think he already knows how you feel about him, constant reminders are still extremely motivating.
We all want to be shown approval for the things we do, whether it’s the way we provide for our family financially, the way we raise our children, the way we take care of the house, the way we do our jobs, the way we look, or our other personal accomplishments.

So being constantly critical and only focusing on your partner’s negative attributes doesn’t say “I love you” very well. In fact, it’s demeaning and will drive him away pretty quickly.

Unfortunately, most of us are guilty of it. Recognize the damage your criticisms may be causing, especially those that are petty and insignificant, and choose your battles wisely. (See related article: 10 Bad Habits that Could Ruin Your Marriage)

Instead of picking at your partner’s flaws, sprinkle your conversations with words of approval, gratitude and admiration. And when your partner shows his love for you by taking out the garbage, putting the seat down or changing your oil, don’t forget to respond with gratitude with words like “Thank you for _____,” “I appreciate that you did _____” and “I admire you for _____.”

Say these words often.

2. Make Him #1
Commitment is the foundation in which any relationship – especially marriage – lies on.

While your relationship should take priority in your life, there’s no denying that you have a long list of other commitments you need to tend to. Your career, children, friends, extended family, and social life often compete for time you could be spending with your partner. Your commitment to your man can easily waver as you give importance to all the other things you have going on. And it’s especially difficult once children are in the picture. Parents, especially mothers, tend to think their children are their biggest obligation, and the other spouse gets pushed aside.

Your spouse is just as important, if not more so, than many of your other commitments. And there’s no better way to show him you know that than with time and affection. Saying “I love you” isn’t enough – this demonstration requires action and active support.

Always make sure you spend an adequate amount of time – and more importantly, quality time – with your partner. Don’t neglect his needs in favor of other more trivial things, and don’t use those as excuses to avoid spending time with him. A third “girl’s night out” this week doesn’t say “I love you” or “I want to spend time with you” very well. It’s your obligation to find a healthy balance.

3. It’s the Small Stuff that Really Counts
Being thoughtful and taking the initiative to bring happiness to your partner is another simple way to say “I love you.”

Kindness and consideration, especially when it’s personal and intimate to who you are as a couple, shows you care so much that you’re willing to go above and beyond. It’s about responding to your partner’s needs and wants, before he has to ask for it.

Be one step ahead by remembering important events coming up in his life. Anticipate the things he needs to get done and help him accomplish them.

Take the initiative to call him at work to see how the big presentation went. Clean out the garage for him without being asked to do so. Don’t wait for him to ask you if you’ll rub his shoulders after a long day – do it before he has a chance. (See related article: The Truth about Men and Romance)

Learn to be a good listener, even he’s talking about something you really don’t care about. And keep unsolicited advice to yourself.

4. Be Your Honey’s Everything
Whether you’re a girlfriend or a wife, your true status takes on so much more meaning than your title does. You’re a friend, a lover and a confidante.

You may also be the mother of your spouse’s children.

Fulfill all of those roles 100%. Be the friend who is fun and loyal, the lover who is affectionate and intimate and the confidante who is trustworthy. Provide an ear to talk to and a shoulder to lean on when your partner needs it most.

If you have children, being a loving, devoted mom shows your partner you love him enough to take care of the children you produced together.

Being your partner’s everything takes work, but it’s an endeavor that says “I love you” more than words ever can.

When you incorporate these different ways to say “I love you” into your everyday life, you’re guaranteed to see a positive response from your partner and even more rewards in your relationship

So go ahead and “tell” your partner just how much you love him today.

Love Arun Menachery

What is romance without a kiss?
When wishing for romance, your kisses had better be good to make a favorable impression. It may not be fair, but some will judge you on your first kiss as to whether or not they will want to see you again. In other words, there needs to be good chemistry when kissing.

A good kiss delivers a powerful impact! If you're a great kisser, you're going to turn your date on and you will have a definite edge.

What distinguishes a good kisser from the kisser we all want to forget? The key is to be soft and gentle and follow their lead. Here are some good romantic kissing tips to enhance your love life:

STEP ONE

Be careful not to startle - watch and wait for the signal to proceed
Avoid the ‘ambush’ kiss (although these can be exciting as your relationship progresses.)
Look deeply into your partner’s eyes. This will send the message that you like them and want to be closer to them.
Look for their signals as well. Look for a warm, kind smile (even a slight smile is good; it doesn’t have to be BIG.)
Pay attention to the look on your loved one’s face. This will indicate where they want to go with this kiss.
STEP TWO

Look for good balance. As you move closer to that magical kiss, you don’t want to be leaning too forward awkwardly to get there.

As you move closer you are sending signals. You want your body to be in a comfortable position during the kiss, so you can enjoy every moment of it.

Go for a light touch just before the kiss. While a hand lightly on the face is a definite signal of intimacy, holding hands combined with eye contact and a warm look can indicate the beginning of a great kiss to come.

Make sure you are aligned correctly at this point. This means not only getting your lips on track with theirs, but getting the head tilted correctly as well.

Tilt your head slightly to one side first. Your partner will likely react and tilt the other way. This is a mutual sign that the kiss will be very welcomed.

STEP THREE

Relax your lips, close your eyes.

Move in slowly. During step number two you made sure the two of you were aligned correctly, now you can close your eyes as you’re just about to make contact.

Relax your lips, not tightly pressed together. Give your partner the pleasant experience of feeling your lips softly against theirs.

Your lips should be recently moistened, but not wet.

STEP FOUR

Relax your lips, tilt your head and breathe evenly.

Moving in, you can part your lips slightly just before contact. Keep your lips relaxed, your tongue in your mouth.

Keep your head tilted so both of you can still breathe comfortably on contact and as the perfect kiss is held...

SAVOR every moment ... be slow, gentle, easy.

STEP FIVE

Keep it sweet, not too long and not too wet.

Don’t pull away too quickly or make any quick movements. Savor. Savor. Savor. Feel the power and romance of the kiss.

Enjoy the moment!

STEP SIX

Take your time and don’t rush. Make eye contact, nonverbal and verbal messages.

To end, pull away slowly and make eye contact again. Show a satisfied, warm smile to reinforce how you feel.

Enjoy the closeness, relax, and finish the kiss with a warm embrace.

A few, thoughtful words, such as, “That was nice,” can be whispered. Try to reinforce how you felt about your kiss with positive words. Your partner will appreciate this and this can break the ice a little.

Now that you have mastered the romance of a kiss....you are well on your way to learn even more about how to enhance your romance life!

THE ROMANCE AND SCIENCE OF KISSING

What is that feeling people get from a good kiss that's so hard to explain? How does kissing come into play when being romantic?

Women often compare a good kiss to "melting butter" and like being "hit by a wave," according to a recent survey. Men often describe it as similar to "vibrations at a concert" or a "three pointer at the buzzer to win the NCAA basketball tournament," according to the same survey.

Experts have proven there is a lot of physiology behind the warm and fuzzy feelings that come from a good kiss.

Feelings of romantic love, and kissing, stimulate the same type of brain activity as many sports, such as: parachuting, bungee jumping and distance running, for example. These same types of activities cause the brain to experience a surge in norepinephrine, dopamine and phenylethylamine (or just PEA to some.) These neurotransmitters attach to pleasure receptors in the brain and create feelings of euphoria, giddiness, elation and such.

So, next time you feel romantic and want to show your love to someone special, go for that wonderful kiss -- it will definitely leave a lasting impression!

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Dating and marriage is different than it was twenty years ago. In today’s society, more than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking about that makes “commitment” seem scary. It seems that when relationships are faced with challenges, people quit trying. Dating is more like a marathon, trying to date as many people as possible, instead of taking time to get to know someone at a deeper level. For married couples, divorce is not biased. Whether married for thirty years or eight months, the outcome can be the same.

The fact is that relationships, whether dating or married, are hard. Things do not always go perfectly, fighting does occur, and it takes a 100% commitment from both parties to make it a success. Often when people break off a relationship, they feel as though something is missing. The “spark” has gone, leaving one or both people feeling inadequate and unfulfilled.

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However, even though the odds are not very good, healthy, and long-lasting relationships are definitely possible and proven by many people. Look at Paul Newman and Joanne Woodard, Danny Devito and Rhea Perlman, or Nancy and Ronald Regan. What secrets do they possess? The answer is that they all work hard at their relationship. They made a decision of choosing to love their mate rather than relying on the “warm and fuzzy” feelings, which everyone knows will fade. By making love a choice you are making a decision that even in the bad times, you stick it out.

Think of it like choosing a car. You pick out the make, model, year, color, and features that you believe are best for you. After driving your car for a couple of months, you realize that perhaps you should have purchased a larger car, or that maybe the leather seats would have been better, or on hot sunny days, the sunroof would have been nice. However, it is now too late so you choose to keep your car and make it work. It is the same for marriage. Not everything will be perfect and there will be major obstacles to overcome but you have made your decision and now you choose to make it work.

There are hundreds of things you can do to better your relationship. To help get you headed in the right direction, we have chosen some of the best ways to build, strengthen, and enhance your relationship.

Remember, little steps taken every day will add up to big successes.Romance in a relationship is the chord that makes the heart beat strongest. Without it, love can weaken and even disappear.

Why do two people love each other? Why do we need someone to love? Why cannot we love ourselves and exist alone? And what is that chemistry that a couple loves each other? Why both should love each other, and no body else? Love is truly a mystery.

The first reason is of course the passion one feels for the other. Call it hormones, mind, heart, emotions or whatever, one falls in love with another person and cannot live without him/her. Physical beauty is not the sole criteria in romantic passionate love. A very beautiful girl can passionately fall in love with an ordinary looking man to the surprise of all. There is something more that is yet to be explored. Ask a lover about why he/she loves her beloved and you will never get a logical answer. Love does not measure qualities, nor sets any standards. Love happens.

Sometimes the love arises out of appreciation of qualities of the other. This love is different than romantic love, but can be equally magnetic. You may get attracted to some persons singing so much that you want to be with him/her at all times. It can be any quality, but it is the appreciation of quality that brings forth this love. In this case the love is passionate love with that quality.

In some cases two persons find so many things alike between each other that they believe they are soul mates. Made for each other, these lovers are bound by the common qualities. What ever may be the reason for falling in love, please fall in love because it is incomparable.