4 Ways to Say “I Love You”
Saying “I love you” always makes for a tender moment. But “I love you” doesn’t have to be “said” with words. While this phrase is a powerful conveyor of emotion, showing your love in other ways is just as significant, and possibly even more effective, at keeping a relationship alive and healthy. There are simple ways to show how much you love someone without uttering those three little words. Plus: Are you a good kisser?
1. Show Your Approval, Gratitude and Admiration
As human beings, we are programmed to seek reassurance from those we love and even sometimes from those we don’t.
So it makes sense that you’d do your best to make sure your partner knows just how much you approve of and admire him. Letting your guy know how you feel takes no time at all. And even if you think he already knows how you feel about him, constant reminders are still extremely motivating.
We all want to be shown approval for the things we do, whether it’s the way we provide for our family financially, the way we raise our children, the way we take care of the house, the way we do our jobs, the way we look, or our other personal accomplishments.
So being constantly critical and only focusing on your partner’s negative attributes doesn’t say “I love you” very well. In fact, it’s demeaning and will drive him away pretty quickly.
Unfortunately, most of us are guilty of it. Recognize the damage your criticisms may be causing, especially those that are petty and insignificant, and choose your battles wisely. (See related article: 10 Bad Habits that Could Ruin Your Marriage)
Instead of picking at your partner’s flaws, sprinkle your conversations with words of approval, gratitude and admiration. And when your partner shows his love for you by taking out the garbage, putting the seat down or changing your oil, don’t forget to respond with gratitude with words like “Thank you for _____,” “I appreciate that you did _____” and “I admire you for _____.”
Say these words often.
2. Make Him #1
Commitment is the foundation in which any relationship – especially marriage – lies on.
While your relationship should take priority in your life, there’s no denying that you have a long list of other commitments you need to tend to. Your career, children, friends, extended family, and social life often compete for time you could be spending with your partner. Your commitment to your man can easily waver as you give importance to all the other things you have going on. And it’s especially difficult once children are in the picture. Parents, especially mothers, tend to think their children are their biggest obligation, and the other spouse gets pushed aside.
Your spouse is just as important, if not more so, than many of your other commitments. And there’s no better way to show him you know that than with time and affection. Saying “I love you” isn’t enough – this demonstration requires action and active support.
Always make sure you spend an adequate amount of time – and more importantly, quality time – with your partner. Don’t neglect his needs in favor of other more trivial things, and don’t use those as excuses to avoid spending time with him. A third “girl’s night out” this week doesn’t say “I love you” or “I want to spend time with you” very well. It’s your obligation to find a healthy balance.
3. It’s the Small Stuff that Really Counts
Being thoughtful and taking the initiative to bring happiness to your partner is another simple way to say “I love you.”
Kindness and consideration, especially when it’s personal and intimate to who you are as a couple, shows you care so much that you’re willing to go above and beyond. It’s about responding to your partner’s needs and wants, before he has to ask for it.
Be one step ahead by remembering important events coming up in his life. Anticipate the things he needs to get done and help him accomplish them.
Take the initiative to call him at work to see how the big presentation went. Clean out the garage for him without being asked to do so. Don’t wait for him to ask you if you’ll rub his shoulders after a long day – do it before he has a chance. (See related article: The Truth about Men and Romance)
Learn to be a good listener, even he’s talking about something you really don’t care about. And keep unsolicited advice to yourself.
4. Be Your Honey’s Everything
Whether you’re a girlfriend or a wife, your true status takes on so much more meaning than your title does. You’re a friend, a lover and a confidante.
You may also be the mother of your spouse’s children.
Fulfill all of those roles 100%. Be the friend who is fun and loyal, the lover who is affectionate and intimate and the confidante who is trustworthy. Provide an ear to talk to and a shoulder to lean on when your partner needs it most.
If you have children, being a loving, devoted mom shows your partner you love him enough to take care of the children you produced together.
Being your partner’s everything takes work, but it’s an endeavor that says “I love you” more than words ever can.
When you incorporate these different ways to say “I love you” into your everyday life, you’re guaranteed to see a positive response from your partner and even more rewards in your relationship
So go ahead and “tell” your partner just how much you love him today.
Love Arun Menachery
Saying “I love you” always makes for a tender moment. But “I love you” doesn’t have to be “said” with words. While this phrase is a powerful conveyor of emotion, showing your love in other ways is just as significant, and possibly even more effective, at keeping a relationship alive and healthy. There are simple ways to show how much you love someone without uttering those three little words. Plus: Are you a good kisser?
1. Show Your Approval, Gratitude and Admiration
As human beings, we are programmed to seek reassurance from those we love and even sometimes from those we don’t.
So it makes sense that you’d do your best to make sure your partner knows just how much you approve of and admire him. Letting your guy know how you feel takes no time at all. And even if you think he already knows how you feel about him, constant reminders are still extremely motivating.
We all want to be shown approval for the things we do, whether it’s the way we provide for our family financially, the way we raise our children, the way we take care of the house, the way we do our jobs, the way we look, or our other personal accomplishments.
So being constantly critical and only focusing on your partner’s negative attributes doesn’t say “I love you” very well. In fact, it’s demeaning and will drive him away pretty quickly.
Unfortunately, most of us are guilty of it. Recognize the damage your criticisms may be causing, especially those that are petty and insignificant, and choose your battles wisely. (See related article: 10 Bad Habits that Could Ruin Your Marriage)
Instead of picking at your partner’s flaws, sprinkle your conversations with words of approval, gratitude and admiration. And when your partner shows his love for you by taking out the garbage, putting the seat down or changing your oil, don’t forget to respond with gratitude with words like “Thank you for _____,” “I appreciate that you did _____” and “I admire you for _____.”
Say these words often.
2. Make Him #1
Commitment is the foundation in which any relationship – especially marriage – lies on.
While your relationship should take priority in your life, there’s no denying that you have a long list of other commitments you need to tend to. Your career, children, friends, extended family, and social life often compete for time you could be spending with your partner. Your commitment to your man can easily waver as you give importance to all the other things you have going on. And it’s especially difficult once children are in the picture. Parents, especially mothers, tend to think their children are their biggest obligation, and the other spouse gets pushed aside.
Your spouse is just as important, if not more so, than many of your other commitments. And there’s no better way to show him you know that than with time and affection. Saying “I love you” isn’t enough – this demonstration requires action and active support.
Always make sure you spend an adequate amount of time – and more importantly, quality time – with your partner. Don’t neglect his needs in favor of other more trivial things, and don’t use those as excuses to avoid spending time with him. A third “girl’s night out” this week doesn’t say “I love you” or “I want to spend time with you” very well. It’s your obligation to find a healthy balance.
3. It’s the Small Stuff that Really Counts
Being thoughtful and taking the initiative to bring happiness to your partner is another simple way to say “I love you.”
Kindness and consideration, especially when it’s personal and intimate to who you are as a couple, shows you care so much that you’re willing to go above and beyond. It’s about responding to your partner’s needs and wants, before he has to ask for it.
Be one step ahead by remembering important events coming up in his life. Anticipate the things he needs to get done and help him accomplish them.
Take the initiative to call him at work to see how the big presentation went. Clean out the garage for him without being asked to do so. Don’t wait for him to ask you if you’ll rub his shoulders after a long day – do it before he has a chance. (See related article: The Truth about Men and Romance)
Learn to be a good listener, even he’s talking about something you really don’t care about. And keep unsolicited advice to yourself.
4. Be Your Honey’s Everything
Whether you’re a girlfriend or a wife, your true status takes on so much more meaning than your title does. You’re a friend, a lover and a confidante.
You may also be the mother of your spouse’s children.
Fulfill all of those roles 100%. Be the friend who is fun and loyal, the lover who is affectionate and intimate and the confidante who is trustworthy. Provide an ear to talk to and a shoulder to lean on when your partner needs it most.
If you have children, being a loving, devoted mom shows your partner you love him enough to take care of the children you produced together.
Being your partner’s everything takes work, but it’s an endeavor that says “I love you” more than words ever can.
When you incorporate these different ways to say “I love you” into your everyday life, you’re guaranteed to see a positive response from your partner and even more rewards in your relationship
So go ahead and “tell” your partner just how much you love him today.
Love Arun Menachery
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